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It’s happened to us all…

You’re attracted to a girl.

But there’s a problem…

She thinks you’re uglier than sin.

Is there anything you can do about it or are you out of luck?

Many experts will tell you that dating is a numbers game – if a woman isn’t attracted, cut your losses and move onto another girl.

Don’t do this. You are cutting yourself short.

Regardless of your physical appearance, you can use a few simple psychological tricks to generate attraction in her.

One of my favorite is called a “Tension Loop.” It was invented by the world famous seducer Swinggcat.

A Tension Loop is when you do something to create unresolved emotional tension inside a woman, increase it, release it by bringing closure to it, and then spark it all over again. This will keep her feeling the emotion of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.

Soap opera writers use Tension Loops to keep women enraptured in their fictitious dramas for months – sometimes years! The structure is always the same. The soap starts off with some form of conflict or drama, sparking unresolved emotional tension. Emotional tension increases up until the point of the climax. The tension, then, is released by bringing some resolution to the conflict or drama. And, finally, the show ends by sparking the tension all over again, compelling women to tune in for next week’s show.

Within the context of dating and flirting, this tension becomes sexualized.

One of Swinggcat’s favorite Tension Loops is called “Push-Pull.”

Push-Pull is whenever you emotionally Push a woman away from you and then emotionally Pull her back in.

Each Push sparks emotional tension and each Pull releases it.

Let us take a look at an example…

Flatter a female with, “You have the most gorgeous smile I’ve seen tonight.”

She’ll gush, “Thank you.”

Then say, “Actually you have the fourth best smile I’ve seen tonight. I’m gonna call you number four.”

She’ll demand, “But I wanna be number one.”

Respond with, “For being feisty I’m promoting you to number three.”

She may whine, “But I wanna be # 1.”

Warn, “If you keep complaining I’m demoting you back down to # 4.

If you want to learn more Seduction Tips, I recommend visiting the world famous pick up artist Swinggcat. The man is a world class expert on Seduction.

As the author of the first body language book for gay men, I’m often asked how male body language affects guy-on-guy dating. The answer is plenty. But to understand why certain postures, gestures and expressions make you more appealing to gay guys, you have to understand the 5 major principles of gay body language:

#1. Words lie, bodies don’t.

The truth leaks out of our bodies like a pockmarked water pail. As soon as we put a finger in one hole another one opens up. You may think you look calm, cool and collected, but look down– your foot’s tapping the floor like a woodpecker. Sexual signals bounce all over the place whenever gay men get together, and they’re being sent with heads, eyes, arms, hands, legs, and feet. Yes, feet. Long story, keep reading.

#2. Your body language changes when you see somebody hot. And you’re usually not aware of it.

Hidden camera studies show that a man’s posture changes when he sees somebody that turns him on. He, or more to the point, YOU, will:

1. Pull your stomach. (To look sleeker)
2. Throw your shoulders back (to occupy more space)
3. Puff up your chest (to look bigger)
4. Lift your head (To look taller)
5. Protrude your jaw (to look more dominant)

It’s a form of preening. Researchers call it “Auto-erotic signaling.”

#3. Body language doesn’t just reflect your inner emotions. It creates them.

Keeping your body language “open” isn’t just critical to changing other people’s moods and attitudes; it’s critical to changing yours. This concept doesn’t just apply to your hands or your palms; it applies to everything. The more you “fake” open and inviting gestures and expressions, the more genuinely open and inviting you’ll become.

Don’t take my word for it; test it. Cross your arms against your chest. What do you notice? After a few minutes, you’ll get quieter, more introspective and less likely to smile or laugh. It’s the body’s built-in feedback loop-’bad mood’ body positions result in bad moods, period. It works the other way around, too. Uncross your arms and keep your palms open for a couple of minutes. Hmm. Is that your spirit lifting or are you just happy to see me? If you want to attract gay men, heed this principle.

#4. The best way to meet and attract gay guys is to use open and inviting gestures.

Keeping your body open and inviting is so important to attracting guys that almost nothing else matters. If you cross your arms, for example, you might as well spray man-repellant on yourself. This goes for any gesture or movement that forms a barrier-holding your hands together, crossing your legs, closing your knees, slouching, or holding anything that blocks your chest, heart and stomach.

#5 Our bodies point toward men we like and away from men we don’t.

Does he like you? Look down. Men subconsciously point with their feet. It’s our way of saying, “Hubba Hubba.” Once, I was in a coffeehouse macking on a hottie who was ignoring his friend. He turned his body toward me, made lots of eye contact, and directed most of the conversation to me. Yet, for all those positive signs, I wasn’t feeling the vibe. My napkin fell to the floor and as I bent down to pick it up, I cursed under my breath. His feet were pointed to his friend! Sure enough, I saw them on a date a few days later. Guilty feet have got no rhythm but they never lie.

Putting it Together. If you want to meet gay men, pay attention to these five core principles of gay male body language. Whether you’re the pursuer or the pursued, the same principles apply: Your body language changes when you see a guy you’re attracted to (so be aware of it), you can consciously use certain body language tactics to change your mood, use open and inviting gestures and finally, if you want to know if a gay guy is attracted to you, watch where he points (especially his feet).

Mike Alvear writes a sex advice column syndicated to the gay press. His instantly downloadable ebook on gay body language, ATTRACT HOTTER GUYS, is available at http://www.mikealvear.com/ebook.

Frowning and crossing your arms is the equivalent of throwing Kryptonite at the Superman you’re hawkin’ on, but what about barely noticeable body language?

If you’re skeptical about how the subtlest body language affects your love life, play a game with me.

Straighten your arm as if you were doing a “Heil Hitler” salute. What’s the feeling? Dominant, aggressive, hateful, right? It isn’t your arm that’s creating those feelings, by the way. It’s your palm.

Watch.

Keep your arm in the air, but now turn the palm up. What’s the feeling now? Open, inviting, fun. Turn the palm down and you feel like Hitler. Turn it up and you feel like…

Evita!

Now, if a simple palm movement has that kind of emotional impact on you, imagine the effect it has on other people.

Clearly we don’t go around saluting like SS guards, but you’d be surprised at how every day palm gestures can have nearly the same negative effects. Quick example: I have a good friend who’s fairly disliked by a good many people. Although I think he’s kind and generous, some folks have taken me aside and said, “There’s something about him that rubs me the wrong way.”

That “something” is the way he uses his palms. In the Hitler example, you saw the raw emotional power of a simple palm position, but again, that’s not realistic. Here’s how your palms can make somebody dislike you (like my friend) in a real conversation.

Stand in front of a mirror so you can see the full effect. Let’s say you met a guy who’s so good looking he makes your teeth ache. Pretend you’re telling him a funny story about the time you asked a co-worker to move a pile of folders from one side of the room to the other. With your palm facing down, point your hand to the imaginary pile, then to where you want it to go. Now, try it again, this time by pointing with your index finger.

Either of those palm positions will make Toothache think you’re a prick. And he won’t even be able to tell you why. But I can. Research shows both of those hand positions communicate a contemptuous, overbearing personality. Especially, the finger pointing. It’s subconsciously perceived as a symbolic club that you beat the listener with, a kind of over-the-arm blow primates use to attack.

In fact, the research is so clear and so consistent it rises to the level of law: Do not EVER talk to anyone by pointing your finger or turning your palm down. If you’re a habitual finger pointer, stop. Yes, some guys are turned on by macho, command-and-control authority figures, but come on. When was the last time anybody said to themselves, “Tonight I want to meet an arrogant prick who thinks I’m an idiot.”

Author, columnist and TV personality Mike Alvear writes a sex advice column syndicated to the gay press. Meet and attract better looking men with his new gay body language eBook. His instantly downloadable eBook on gay body language, ATTRACT HOTTER GUYS, is available at http://www.mikealvear.com/ebook.